Planning a wedding sucks

Weston and I toyed with the idea of eloping but brushed it off. Then I tried imagining a wedding and a reception and it just didn't go so well, so now we're back to eloping. I have 4 major reasons why I want to elope: 1) planning is too hard, 2) I've always imagined a Temple wedding, and now that I won't have that I want to emotionally separate as much as I can. Vegas will be a perfect separation. 3) Trying to figure out the timing is ridiculous. I definitely do not want a wedding followed immediately by a reception because it seems redundant, I don't want a wedding/reception together where someone can sip their punch and watch my vows at the same time; that's just tacky, and I don't want to make people wait and entertain themselves for 5 hours between a wedding and reception. and lastly, 4) I know that in their love and care for me, many people would be coming up saying "It was a beautiful wedding Erica but... are you sure you're ok with it not being in the temple?" It sounds horrible, but I KNOW it will happen. I'll hear it from friends and family both and, correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't this supposed to be the happiest day of my life? Well hearing that will probably make it one of the most depressing and questioning days of my life. However, the more I've talked with people about it the more they've assured and guaranteed me that such depressing talk won't happen. I was starting to believe that until today... when I got a text from a really good friend who sounded shocked and awed and like she fell off the bed in sorrow and disgust over my marriage outside the temple. Did I reply to the text? No I did not. Will I? Nope. As much as I hated it when I was a kid, I really understand why adults punish a whole group because of the actions of 1. This sucks.